Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Power & Significance in Giving


"Wealth isn't always measured in dollar signs. We each have time, talent and creativity, all of which can be powerful forces for positive change. Share your blessings in whatever form they come and to whatever level you have been blessed."
Jon M. Huntsman Sr.

For many of us, this life can become quite routine. I'm not saying routine is always a bad thing. Routine can help us be efficient, productive, and organized. We are creatures of habit right? But have you ever felt like your usual has become mundane and directionless? This has become quite the theme of many of us stay-at-home moms, though I'm sure it's not limited at all to that category. We can feel like people floating around with hardly any direction or impact on the world around us. We can compare our lives and paths with others. We can feel powerless and insignificant.  We can even become numb to the little extraordinary things that happen around us and many days, life can seem dull and grey. You know the days I'm talking about. When showers are a privilege as well as peeing or pooping without a kid invading your privacy or full on attacking you. When you spend your entire day in the car driving little humans all over God's green earth, cleaining up accidents, attempting to grocery shop or do laundry, trying to calm tantrums, and break up fights constantly. We can wonder what our "purpose" is and what importance do we have on this planet? We can feel a disconnect. "Is this it for me?" At the same time we desire the world for our children don't we? We want them to never be deprived of what they need, for their health to never be threatened, and for their education to be the very best possible. We want them to be selfless, caring, little individuals.

I don't think it happens over night that we wake up wondering what we can do to utilize our talents in addition to being a mom. Though we care immensely for our children, and desire to be great parents, it's easy to get so completely wrapped up in our littles, that we lose sight of who we are and lose connections with people. Staying connected isn't easy and being a mom is a grand job and very high calling, but you are still YOU and I believe that we teach our children through example don't you? 

What if I told you that you are NOT powerless or insignificant... not even in the least. What if I told you that I believe with everything in me that not only were you the mom hand picked for your child, but you were also put where you are today for a very good reason. I was thinking hard the other day about how much I wanted to help others this Christmas. Its our family's favorite time of year, but im very aware that it can also be very difficult. The loss of a job, loved one, being in poor health, and/or being alone are all examples of things that can cause the holiday season to be more painful than enjoyable. We may not have a lot of money, but my husband and I are employed, and our family is together and in great health, praise God! I'm not saying that to brag, We've dealt with the death of loved ones and how that can leave a huge empty space when others are celebrating. We've dealt with scary health situations. What I am saying is that I don't want to take my current comforts and blessings for granted and I know that those things are not owed to me in any way. But I want my actions to say that, not just my words.

So, it got me thinking. Sometimes it's the very small things we overlook that have all the power to affect others in a positive way. It's the little choices we make on the daily: buying someone coffee, smiling at someone you'd normally overlook, cooking someone a meal, giving up a "service" for free (something someone would usually pay for and you have the opportunity to do it free of charge), thanking someone for something that's expected of them, offering to watch your friend's kid so they can have a date night, being a shoulder to cry on, listening without judging, encouraging someone, shoveling snow off of your neighbors driveway, helping someone move, giving up your seat to someone older, asking how you can be there/help someone. These are all things that may seem "ordinary", but it can change someone in that moment and create a sense of community. None of these things take a lot of time or money in the big scheme of things, and you may never know the impact that you have on that person, but I truly believe that thinking of others can make us less aware of what we feel is missing in our own lives and how powerless we think we are. Reality is, the sky's the limit. Sometimes it's starting small and then eventually realizing that you have a calling to help others in a very specific way. We all have very unique qualities and abilities. We all have something to bring to the table and if everyone took a moment out of their busy day to do something good for someone else, imagine all the blessings that would be floating around! We weren't meant to live this life alone. Together is where we can make an even bigger impact.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, lets consider making an effort to not get caught up in the scheduled, day to day monotonous, duteous life we seem to easily sink into living. I've felt the most alive when I've done something for the good of someone else expecting nothing in return. Start small...you can even stay small! We can leave little legacies all over the place. We can choose in small, ordinary moments to be selfless and end up feeling rewarded just as much as the person receiving. We're also setting an example for our kids. Even if we don't do this often or well, expressing the desire and putting forth the effort will speak volumes to our children! I think that's pretty powerful on many levels right there. 

In a couple weeks I'll be teaming up with some other people to give you the opportunity to bless someone in need this Christmas! Make sure you're following me on Instagram so you don't miss it! Thanks for reading and hopefully you'll take part in helping me pay it forward!

1 comment:

  1. Great post Jess! I dont have any little ones of my own, but like everyone else I struggle with making an impact and a difference. The mundane can feel debilatating at times. Im always trying to think of ways to better myself, and help others, and try to do what I can, starting with the children in my care, along with my family and friends. It definately doesnt always feel like enough. It all feels quite small in the scheme of things. I like the positivity of this outlook. keep uplifting!

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